I want to clarify something. In most reputable BDSM groups consent is one of the cornerstones of what we do. “No means yes” isn’t something that happens without trust and negotiation, and more often than not safe words or signals. Rape absolutely does happen in the BDSM community, but not at a higher incidence than in the larger community. We are aware of the stigmas attached with our lifestyle as well as the risks. We do what we can to mitigate those risks.