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    • KitKatFelis

      “You can’t stop other people from being ******, and no matter your size, they always will be. It’s tough, but the only opinion regarding appearance that matters is your own.” And you know what - alot of studies have found women think they look bad when they don’t! So you do look good!
      I have seen SO many overweight girls in bikinis (real bikinis, not with skirts, cover-up panels and other junk) look very very good! The trick was they didn’t care how other people saw them, and they knew there was nothing wrong with having a visible stomach!
      Finally, read these comments about a woman with a quite visible stomach (oh yes, wearing a bikini, not covering up!):
      “[She] is so sexy it hurts!”
      “[She] rocks”
      “*WOOT WOOOT*”
      Now put on your bikini and have fun!

    • KitKatFelis

      “surprisingly, whenever i imagine myself in a bathing suit or workout clothes, my imagination does this cool thing where i’m way hotter, so i guess i don’t belong to that percentage of women. they just need to exercise their imaginations a little more, i guess.”
      A study posted on this site - an FBI photofitter compared women’s image of themselves with how others saw them. The result? The women thought they looked awful when they looked good!
      Another study here found that “even after they drop pounds, they still think they’re fat”!
      And another study found anoxics brains saw themselves as fat when they were skeletal, and further they saw themselves differently to how they saw other women! You look much better than you think! “in public, i actually don’t care…i have an average body, definitely nothing to write home about, but i’m not there to flaunt [my body], i’m there to swim or lay in the sun.”
      I think alot of women should read this. Too much unconfidence comes from the (bad!) motivation of wearing a bikini/jeans/sport gear/etc primarily to make other women jealous/make men sleaze.
      So wear your bikini for yourself and enjoy yourself!

    • KitKatFelis

      “they just need to exercise their imaginations a little more, i guess.
      in public, i actually don’t care.”
      I couldn’t agree more!
      Some comments on a woman with a visble stomach, wearing a bikini (not a ‘fatkini’ or other junk) :)
      “[She] is so sexy it hurts!”
      “*WOOT WOOOT*”  “…i have an average body, definitely nothing to write home about, but i’m not there to flaunt [my body], i’m there to swim or lay in the sun.” I think it’s time that more women realised that! Unfortunately, the (bad!) motivation of primarily wearing a bikini/sports gear/jeans/etc to make other women jealous of your body/’making men melt’ or whatever, is what is behind alot of unconfidence. Instead of saying “So what? I have a stomach, what right have you to say I shouldn’t wear a bikini?” Any why not? (Don’t go for the European topless beaches, but still commend them if they didn’t tell women they were hideous if they had a normal body.) Oh yes, and in the Upper Volta - Plus Sized women are very much admired! So much for ‘everyone knows you must be stick skinny’ and ‘multitude of sins to cover up’!

    • KitKatFelis

      Notice the other article on this site a few month ago - an FBI photofit expert tested how women saw themselves with how they actually looked. The result - they thought they looked awful when they didn’t! Some advice on what to do? Question yourself - why do you think that having a visible stomach is hideous? Who said that a bottom must be utterly flat?
      Then realise that it’s the sleazy men (who only want to see stick-skinny model women) and the manipulative examples of the skinny women (who are afraid of having anyone else dress well!) who have pushed this, and pushed it, and pushed it, and don’t want you to wear what frankly make you look good! (Shall I say that again? You look good!)
      Finally, read these comments about a woman with a quite visible stomach (oh yes, wearing a bikini, not covering up!):
      “[She] is so sexy it hurts!”
      “[She] rocks”
      “*WOOT WOOOT*”
      Now put on your bikini and have fun!

    • KitKatFelis

      How about improving society to the point that we don’t say ‘oh, you have a visible stomach, you must cover up’? The day when ‘fatkinis’ (eww) go the way of the corset and crinoline?
      Becuase in the days of those horrors, it was considered ‘indecent’ for women to admit to having legs at all! So now we have improved things for skinny and average women, let’s remove the old biasts and let Plus Sized women dress like women, not like ‘you’re a Fat Person, you shouldn’t be seen in public’?

    • KitKatFelis

      “As a curvy girl, I find on a regular basis that I’m more comfortable with my body than my thin friends. I think this is because I’ve been forced by hateful comments and size-ist society to look at my body daily and decide what I love about it.” In that case, why don’t you dress like you’re not ashamed of most of your body - wear a proper bikini? I have seen many very plus size girls wearing bikinis - and guess what? When they had confidence (and didn’t feel the need to cover up like this), they looked BETTER than the skinny girls! Admittedly,
      “I don’t agree that they look like every other swimsuit - it is only in the last few years that finding a midriff baring suit in a plus size has been anything other than a myth.”
      but eviedntly some girls have managed to find them. “I’d feel the same way if I felt hopeful that society would be as open minded to changing their minds about people of size as they did with people with different sexual orientations. I’m quite pessimistic in this area.” There’s only two ways foward, both needed.
      - Convince others that it’s wrong to push the ‘if you’re not a beanpole, you can’t wear a bikini/jeans that fit/etc’. Not an easy task, but then I think about convicing people in the USA about the wrongness of slavery before the Civil War - it was so entrenched, so many people believed in it, how did they ever shift people? Answer, by working away at it and not being ashamed.
      - Wear a bikini to the beach - not a cover-up, I’m-ashamed-of-myself poor excuse for swimmers. Ignore the nasties who scoff and whisper. And tell anyone who is ashamed of you that being biast against Plus Size people is the 2000s version of the pre-Us-Civil-War biast-against-African-Americans! Be yourself! Be confident! Stop being ashamed of having a stomach! It can actually look quite nice if you let it!

    • KitKatFelis

      I agree!
      I also agree with “What would also help is if the men who DO love larger women would proudly say so and date them without letting their teeny brained “bros” influence them OR shame THEM! Like who YOU like, not what society says you should.” It also seems strange to me that the intial picture, scoffing at the size of her breasts - yet the same people who made the ‘meme’ would be complaining of their girlfriend’s breasts not being ‘big enough’…? Not very consistent. And now for a comment not made before..Having seen girls who are MORE plus size than this wearing bikinis (and not the silly ones with skirts and cover-up panels) - and not feeling unconfident in themselve - looking wonderful! So I think this model, as well as not deserving the nasty junk slung at her for not being a stick-woman, should wear a bikini next time she goes to the beach! And other plus size women should stand up against people like the scoffers and wear good clothes with pride!

    • KitKatFelis

      However, it is not cringeworthy to show that you are pregnant.Ithink people will get the wrong idea from the photos, and leave thinking that showing your pregnant stomach is somehow ugly when it is NOT.
      (That reminds me ofasitcom-in interviews, the preganant actress said that they had the kitchen benches on the set nearly at neck height to hide her pregnancy. As if it were something shameful. And as if the writers couldn’t have written it into the storyline.)

    • KitKatFelis

      Wear Whatever Clothes You Like, Ami Lo.
      Bikinis are clothes, you know. That woman at the courthouse wasn’t wearing clothes. And unless she was suffering from a bad trauma (which can make people do strange things^), she wasn’t wearing what she wanted, she was just being slutty. Your irrelivant argument, that a woman stripping to her underwear in public has anything to do with women not being limited in what they wear by fashion-nazi ‘shoulds’*, is like saying that having confidence in yourself will mean you get into punchups with thugs, as you’ll ‘be too confident to back down’ when you get into a bad spot (rather than quietly leave).
      It’s also like the argument that if you don’t tell lies all the time, then you must be a rude person who says every thought that comes into your head. Notes!
      * Perhaphs the fashion-nazis could reintoduce old laws about only nobility, I mean them, can wear certain colours of clothes, wear silk, etc? But instead of laws to confine people, they can make another TV show scoffing at a woman who isn’t stick skinny and telling her ‘you must cover up, it’s offensive to see you at all!’ Actually, it’s not very far fetched - the fashion nazis keep pushing ‘if you’re not stick skinny you can’t wear bikinis, strapless tops, crop tops, skirts that aren’t ankle length…’
      Also reminds me of the trashy and exploitave TV show where ‘friends’ came on to convince women who weren’t beanpoles that they mustn’t wear bikinis, tut tut, they ‘must wear 9-man-tents’ on the beach. ^ By this I mean as a safety valve. There is not enough understanding that after a bad trauma - like a breakup - people need to do something extreme (no, not the courthouse incident). Things like go on a few-day partying spree, get a radical makeover, go on a trip overseas, etc. When people don’t have a safety valve like this, they do often very stupid things as they haven’t released the pressure. I have seen enough really overweight women who weren’t afraid to wear bikinis (and not think they had to wear skirts on them or otherwise compromise their good looks), and they looked fantastic!  PS Something I have picked up. Overweight women really need to stop tieing their hair back tight; it really doesn’t look good (on anyone, actually), and it’s not slimming - having a normal hairstyle really does make your face look good!