When asking for her number, do it with confidence. For example, “How about you give me your number so we can get together for coffee/tea/happy hour.” Pull your phone out and just look at her. This will be a moment of silence so don’t fuck up and speak. Focus on giving eye contact and hold the phone out. If she says, “Why don’t you give me yours instead”, don’t fall for it. Say, “Look, if you won’t give me yours, I won’t give you mine. I kinda like it when the girl is interested as well.” Smile and shut up while the phone is out. This will show confidence and lets her know you don’t sell yourself short.

If you manage to snag her digits, do NOT call her the same night you met her. As a matter of fact, don’t even call the next day. Send her a text three days later to see if she wants to meet you. If you text or call before three days, you’ll show signs of desperation. If she says that she’ll call you back and does not, do NOT call her again. When she does call back, tell her you’re on the line with a friend girl that is having a hard time. Do NOT call her back. If she calls back again, then you’ve just gained control.

If you’re one of those types that likes to call the number in front of her to verify it’s real…DON’T. If you feel the need to, ask permission first such as, “Is it ok if I call you so you can have my number too?” Calling without permission will make her think you don’t trust her and quickly lose her. So just to play it safe, don’t call it at all until three days later.

During the phone conversation, ask open ended questions. The more she talks about herself, the better you are and the more ammo she gives you to close the deal. No woman likes a man that talks about himself all the time. If she asks why you’re single, tell her you just broke up with your ex because as much as she loved you, you didn’t love her to that degree. You cared for her though and didn’t want to waste her time or yours, so you decided to break things off. This will tell her that somebody wants you but you’re considerate enough to not waste someone’s time. It also tells her that you want True Love. Women love that shit, so at least pretend. Always answer any questions with a positive attitude, NEVER a negative one.

By now you should be able to schedule a dinner date with her. I’ll tell you what to do during dinner next week. So for now…lets keep practicing on that confidence.

Ricardo De Oro