Am I the only bride who expected nothing of her bridesmaids besides buying a dress and showing up on time? I made everything myself (OK, my MOH helped with the place cards for 30 minutes, but she insisted. I was happy to finish it myself). I asked my maids to pick their own dress off a website, I only picked the colour. I didn’t care what shoes they wore. As soon as the ceremony was over they went to the bar and I saw them at dinner. They were never called or bothered or asked to come to fittings or venues. They offered to come if it interested them, didn’t if it didn’t. The best thing to remember is that no one cares about your wedding but you, so you need to do the work and make it as easy on everyone else as you can!