1. Stop saying “I’ll be happy when”
It’s great to have goals and to work to achieve them. But don’t get caught up in preconceived notions of what your life “should” be or by measuring your life as compared to others. You have an endless list of things to be thankful and happy for. Take a moment to list them out and remind yourself how great your life is RIGHT NOW.
2. Put your phone down
Number one: Enjoy the people you’re with and don’t insult them by giving them anything less than 100% of your attention.
Number two: Whether you’re talking to your boss, grandma, or boyfriend, use real words and proper sentences. Adults have adult conversations and text messages with “wht u doin” help no one.
3. Measure the amount of time you spend on social media, cut it in half and use the rest of that time to learn something new.
Knowing what your junior high lab partner ate for lunch today is not improving you as a person in any way. Back when you were 7 years old your parents probably had you in school, taking gymnastics, and learning piano! So you’re older now and that just stops? Buy Rosetta Stone, take that art class you always wanted to take, go to the aquarium, READ THE NEWS! If you’re not moving forward, chances are you’re falling behind.
4. Be a person you’re proud to be
We all make mistakes and change over time. But remember to learn from those mistakes and make the changes you want to see before it’s too late. There is no better day than today to be the person you want to be.
5. Surround yourself with inspiring people
Inspiration doesn’t just come from a successful CEO. I’m inspired by my best friend who has lived through so much, he is just excited to be alive every single day. I’m inspired by another good friend who is going back to school and working to give her 2 year old daughter the best life she can. They make me a better person. If you don’t have people around you who you admire and who inspire you to do your best, then you simply won’t be your best.
6. Learn to listen to and trust your instincts
Your instincts can be one of your greatest tools, but you never really learn to listen to them until you ignore them five times and they say “I told you so.” Spend the time learning what your instinctual triggers are, listen to them, and act on them.
7. Show up
Whether this is you staying late to work on a deadline with your team or attending your little brother’s soccer game, showing up and putting effort into your relationships is one of the best ways to show they truly matter. This doesn’t mean stretch yourself thin by attending anything and everything. It means know what’s important, and be there with bells on.
8. In your life, no one’s opinion matters as much as yours
When you’re young you do things because they’re fun and make you happy. And then one day, someone says you look stupid doing it, so you stop doing it. Living your life based on other people’s opinions of you is just an unhappy puppet show. Do something because you like it, it’s important to you, or it makes you happy. Take it from Phoebe and run however you want!
9. Have ME Time
When you can, have a date with yourself. Curl up to your favorite book, go on your favorite hike, or treat yourself to your favorite dessert. Do it for yourself and by yourself if you can - even if it’s just 5 minutes. Take the time to enjoy your life just as it is in that very moment. If you don’t stop to appreciate it, you may not even realize how good it is.
10. Today is the first day of the rest of your life, so MAKE IT COUNT.
Even I fall victim to the wake up, go to work, go home, eat dinner, watch TV, call it a night routine. We don’t all have time to go sky diving today or to volunteer at the hospital. But you can still live with purpose and find little ways to make it count. Don’t let the day pass you by without sharing your love, being thankful, and watching a sunset here and there.