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    Lost Libido

    With life getting in the way, it can be difficult to keep your sex drive in sync with your partners. This can cause issues in a relationship.

    Lost libido

    With life getting in the way, it can be difficult to keep your sex drive in sync with your partners. This can cause issues in a relationship.

    Often, your sexual urges will depend on a variety of factors including hormones, stress levels, work patterns, and general health and fitness levels.

    If your partner is prone to ” headaches” it may be time to ask why?

    Part of keeping a relationship strong in the bedroom is understanding your partners needs as well as your own.

    When lost libido becomes an issue , it can be hard to balance the needs of a partner. Masturbation either alone or mutually can be the answer.

    By giving your partner a helping hand, you can still be intimate whilst fulfilling that need for closeness and relieving any sexual tension.

    If a partner is not open to this, then do not be afraid to use sex toys to fill that gap. Vibrators and male masturbators can also be part of a healthy sex life, adding variety to your sex life.

    With so many toys on the market it can be difficult to know where to begin.

    The best advice is to start small, discover what you like and add to your toy collection as you learn.

    Its also a good idea to read sex toy reviews as these will give you a more detailed insight into what to expect from a particular vibrator or toy.

    Written by Alexandra Daley