Since when is there a “stigma attached to being a victim”? Sure, back in the days when Jodie Foster filmed her movie about being a victim of rape on a pool table. But these days? Are you kidding? We live in the most victim oriented/victim defended culture in history. What do you think all the lawsuits that raise car and medical insurance rates are all about anyway? The minute anyone feels like a victim for the slightest or largest reason, going public gains them nothing but sympathy.
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How about the fact that once you tell someone, “I was molested by my father when I was 6,” they will always think of you as a victim, always feel sorry for you, always think you’re likely to be suffering some serious mental issues because of it? I can’t really imagine what it’s like, but I’ve heard rape victims (and there it is, see) say they hate having to deal with that, and it makes them reluctant to tell people. There’s this idea that it’s a traumatic experience that is impossible to recover from, and even if it’s been 40 years and the person is perfectly okay, everyone still assumes they’re not. Also, see in the Facebook section of the comments, where someone says that many “victims” are really just lying about it. There is still a lot of victim blaming when it comes to instances of rape. You know, “If she didn’t want to have sex, she shouldn’t have been dressed like a slut.” I read a poll once where something like 80% of the respondents (who were British, if it matters) said that if a woman kissed a man, it didn’t count as rape if he forced her to have sex, because…she owes him for leading him on, I guess? (It probably wasn’t phrased quite like that, but the point is basically that kissing = consent, somehow.) I should try to find that poll again. It was disturbing but fascinating.
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