This is pretty sad. Some of these are blatantly racist and exclusionary, like the asshole with the rice comment. Some of them are fuckin’ rude, like the person who had her space invaded by the hat-jacker or those of African heritage who get clicked at. (Seriously? Awful.) But… some of them are things I’ve asked my friends of alternate ancestry / provenance. My friend is 2nd generation Japanese, and I remember being surprised when I found out he was taking Japanese classes back in high school. I, like many other naive teenagers, made an assumption about his home life. The cool thing about him was that he explained it to me - like he had probably done a bunch of times for others, I now realize - and we were still friends after that. I also had a Sudanese classmate whom I asked some questions about Africa. I don’t remember them all, but I hope they didn’t make him feel bad. (They probably did. Shit. :c ) Where does the line between curiosity about other heritages cross the line into “microaggressions?” I’d like to be able to say that some of these quotes came from people who are simply curious, and tactless, and naive. But then again, I’m 6th generation Irish (read: white as hell) and it’s probably not okay for me to justify these questions, and therefore minimize these people’s feelings, by saying, “It’s curiosity coming from people who are too stupid to phrase it differently.” TL;DR: I am white but not racist, and asked some of these questions when I was too naive/stupid to know that this was hurtful. I was fortunate enough to have friends who told me when I was being hurtful, so I could learn better. On behalf of white folks who truly don’t hate you, and are just dumb sometimes: sorry.