Out Lesbian Responds To Father’s $130 Million Offer For Any Man Willing To Marry Her

Despite the fact that Malaysian socialite Gigi Chao is out and married, her real estate tycoon father is still offering $130 million for any man willing to marry her. Chao has written an open letter in response. Update: Her father withdrew his offer today. posted on

1. Even though Gigi married her partner of nine years in a civil ceremony in France in 2012, her property developer father said this month in an interview with a Malaysian newspaper that his daughter was still single and doubled his offer to $130 million.

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Gigi Chao poses with her partner Sean Eav (left) at an event in Hong Kong.

2. Previously, Chao had laughed off her father’s bid to find her a husband. But today, she wrote him an open letter.

Dear Daddy,

I thought the timing was right for us to have a candid conversation.

You are one of the most mentally astute, energetic yet well mannered and hard-working people this humble earth has ever known.

Your confidence, quick wit, and charisma brightens any room you enter.

I love you very much, and I think I can speak for my brothers also, that we have the utmost respect for you as a father and role model in business.

I am sorry that people have been saying insensitive things about you lately. The truth is, they don’t understand that I will always forgive you for thinking the way you do, because I know you think you are acting in my best interests. And we both don’t care if anybody else understands.

As your daughter, I would want nothing more than to make you happy. But in terms of relationships, your expectations of me and the reality of who I am, are not coherent.

I am responsible for some of this misplaced expectation, because I must have misled you to hope there were other options for me. You know I’ve had male lovers in the past, and I’ve had happy, albeit short-lived, relationships. I found myself temporarily happy, buoyed by the freshness, the attention, the interest, of someone physically stronger than myself.

But it was always short-lived, as I quickly lost patience, and felt an indescribable discomfort in their presence. It usually made me frustrated, and I would yearn for my freedom again. I’ve broken a few hearts, hearts of good, honest and loving men, and I’m sorry that it had to be so.

But with Sean, a woman, somehow it was different. I am comfortable and satisfied with my life and completely at ease with her. I know it’s difficult for you to understand how I could feel romantically attracted to a woman; I suppose I can’t really explain it either. It just happens, peacefully and gently, and after so many years, we still love each other very much.

My regret is that you have no idea how happy I am with my life, and there are aspects of my life that you don’t share. I suppose we don’t need each other’s approval for our romantic relationships, and I am sure your relationships are really fantastic too.

However, I do love my partner Sean, who does a good job of looking after me, ensuring I am fed, bathed and warm enough every day, and generally cheering me up to be a happy, jolly girl. She is a large part of my life, and I am a better person because of her.

Now, I’m not asking you to be best of friends; however, it would mean the world to me if you could just not be so terrified of her, and treat her like a normal, dignified human being.

I understand it is difficult for you to understand, let alone accept this truth.

I’ve spent a lot of time figuring out who I am, what is important in my life, who I love and how best to live life, as an expression of all these questions. I am proud of my life, and I would not choose to live it any other way (except also figuring out how to be gentler on the planet).

I’m sorry to mislead you to think I was only in a lesbian relationship because there was a shortage of good, suitable men in Hong Kong.

There are plenty of good men, they are just not for me.

Wishing you happiness.

Patiently yours,

Your daughter, Gigi.

4. She wrote this Facebook post last Friday to the men trying to woo her.

5. And the next day, she reassured everyone she is okay.

6. Her father said he thinks it’s not too late to change her thinking because she is only 33.

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Cecil Chao, chairman of the Hong Kong property developer Cheuk Nang Holdings.

7. Watch this video where she talks about being a lesbian.

8. UPDATE – Jan. 30, 2014 12:21 p.m. ET


Gigi Chao’s father has withdrawn his $130 million dowry today two days after Gigi’s letter was published, according to CNN.

But her father, Cecil Chao, told CNN today the offer was over “for the time being.” The offer is over “until she changes her mind.”

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