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    5 Signs He's Just Using You For Sex! (that Jodi Arias Ignored)

    Does it feel like you are the only one in your relationship? Are you tired of wondering why? Use these 5 signs to see if he is just using you for sex, and what you can do about it!

    5 Signs He's Just Using You For Sex!

    In a 2010 study out of the Family Relations Department at Guelph University in Guelph Ontario, graduate student Jocelyn Wentland wanted to find out what the true statistics were for women and casual sex. The results were a little bit alarming. 32% of women reported that they had been involved in a casual sex relationship, also known as a friends with benefits or hookup buddy situation, and were fine with it.

    Wentland used this data to suggest that more women today were getting more confident about their sexuality and not having so much anxiety about casual relationships. It is a wonderful testament to the growing empowerment of women.

    But what about those women that find themselves in a casual relationship, and aren't so okay with it? It is not exclusive to women either, many men find themselves as casual side dishes almost as frequently as women.

    With trends like ghosting and the mermaid theory occurring more and more frequently in the Toronto dating scene and beyond, this would mean that more and more people are finding themselves in casual relationships without even knowing it, or wanting it. It leads to a lot of broken hearts. Is he using you for sex? Or is she?

    One of the biggest causes for those hearts that are broken is a lack of communication. The case of Jodi Arias is a classic example. One of the biggest dating mistakes Jodi Arias made was only asking for half a loaf, staying with a man for sexual reasons only when she clearly wanted more.

    If you want more, you are allowed to go after it. And if you don't, communicate that clearly or you could wind up hurting one of your closest friends beyond repair.

    Another thing you can do to save yourself from the gutting pain of just being used for sex is by waking up to the signs that it is happening. If Jodi had the insight and wherewithal to accept that she was only Travis Alexander's side dish, things might be different today.

    But she almost can't be blamed. One thing that is not disputable is that she clearly loved Travis with everything that she had. She literally gave her life for him. Although there is no justification for the horrific choices that she made, that kind of love actually IS blind. She either didn't see it, or she refused to accept it.

    Are you making the same dating mistakes? Just because you are does not mean you are going to become the next Jodi Arias. But it could mean that you might become the next victim of a big ol' broken heart. Here are some signs to find out if your partner is just using you for sex, and isn't going to make you their long term exclusive thing any time soon.