Have you ever had to deal with being beaten? I have. It’s not victim blaming to tell a woman to stay safe or to let her know people think she’s making a bad decision. There IS strong psychology involved with domestic abuse, that’s why a woman in that situation needs to constantly hear the voice of reason from people outside the situation. At the end of the day every woman is responsible for her own safety. All you are doing is saying the responsibility shouldn’t be on her, and no-one can say anything to her because of the ‘complex psychology’. All your point of view does is enable people who are in some ways addicted to abusers stay in their situation.

If a woman is abused by her boyfriend, leaves him, then goes back to him, then she does need to take some responsibility for what happened to her. Victim blaming would be when you are placing blame on someone who has no idea that they are about to become victimized and no way to prevent being victimized. She already knows what he is capable of but she is putting herself back in a situation where she coud get hurt. I am a survivor of domestic abuse, and I was in a relationship with my abuser for two years before I finally found the courage to leave, but once I got out of that situation there was no way in hell I was going back to it.

What really bothers me is that plastic surgeons are allowed to continually slice up a woman’s face until they turn her into a freak. Where are these doctor’s ethical standards?

How many people is she hiding under there?

Thanks for the recipe! The spiced bourbon apple pie turned out great!

There will always be people who break the law, it doesn’t matter who the people are or what type of event they were attending. It’s not fair to ban the entire event because of the actions of two individuals.