Have you ever had to deal with being beaten? I have. It’s not victim blaming to tell a woman to stay safe or to let her know people think she’s making a bad decision. There IS strong psychology involved with domestic abuse, that’s why a woman in that situation needs to constantly hear the voice of reason from people outside the situation. At the end of the day every woman is responsible for her own safety. All you are doing is saying the responsibility shouldn’t be on her, and no-one can say anything to her because of the ‘complex psychology’. All your point of view does is enable people who are in some ways addicted to abusers stay in their situation.