Admitting that you will likely have unsafe sex again in the future certainly doesn’t make you “committed to staying HIV negative”. It means that you are willing to engage in behaviour which may not only infect you with an incurable virus, but which may lead to you infecting others who may be less informed. I say this because you admit to getting tested only weeks later, ignoring that the antibodies which would indicate an HIV infection could take three to six months to develop after infection, and you’re either unaware of this or don’t care. Either way, it’s appalling to object to the term “unsafe sex” on high-minded intellectual or moral grounds, because that’s what it is. It’s unsafe. Its increasing popularity increases the infection rates of both curable and incurable diseases which will infrequently kill. It’s fucking irresponsible. If you don’t want to be judged, then realize that judgment is justified when your choices are such that they affect not only you, but others. You’re a fucking adult, and you deserve that judgment.